Authenticity – the quality of being genuine
This can be quite a deep topic so bear with me ok?
Alright so, there are many people around us, right?
I want you to think about this – what are they like?
Your colleagues, your friends – are they real or fake?
Think about it
After you reflect a bit, I want you to look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself this
“What about you? Are you real or fake?”
Obviously you don’t have to answer me at all, you know yourself
And whether you are telling the truth, or lying, to yourself
And that my friends, is being authentic
Ok it’s not such a short article
Truthfully, you might be thinking, it’s because everyone around you are fakes, that’s why you got to put up barriers and walls and fakeness too
I totally get that!
But the thing is, have you considered that it might be because you are putting up a false image that made people around you put up these false images too?
You may have heard of the Law of Attraction
And if you think positive, you attract positivity right?
That’s what it says
Which also means if you think negative, you attract negativity too
So yea, maybe you have a false image (even if it’s false image of positivity) that attracts false people to you too?
Ok if it’s mind boggling, read on on why you need to be authentic instead
Why be authentic?
Ok I totally understand why it ain’t easy to be authentic
Because it can hurt
And hey, I’ve been there too
But after the bit of hurt is where we start to grow
Like a lobster that need to feel some pain as it breaks his shell in order to grow
You may or may not know me, but there are a few people who find me being authentic, being genuine, is so refreshing
And they really did say that
Also, they said it was rare
So here are 3 more reasons for why be authentic
A. You get true connection
When we are authentic and real, we no longer have false masks to hide behind
No barriers, no walls
This allows us to make deep and true connections with other people
Whether it’s in a romantic relationship, business relationship or collaboration etc
Think about it
Your romantic relationships can grow so much more
And your clients will recommend more customers to you simply because you are real
And because you are real, you become like a natural magnet
Lee McKing The Hypnotist with some of his members from the Singapore
B. You get more respect (and probably more influential too)
Being authentic in this day and age can also mean doing what we think is right
It’s being true to ourselves first and foremost
This can get lots of respect from people around you
And some might recognise you as an influential leader
I say might cause some people might not want to be a leader
(It’s ok… just decline)
C. You get more things done
Ok what do I mean by this?
Well, if you got to put masks and falsehoods up all the time, wouldn’t that expend a lot of energy?
Then you end up having to eat into your sleep to get your work done
But they never seem to end!
So when you are authentic, you now have more energy to do work instead of putting up walls and false pretences
You are now you
So I hope you got the picture now
(If you haven’t, read the above again but now hear my voice XD )
And the next question is – how?
How to be authentic and real? (without seeing me of course)
I’ve got that covered too so read on
1. Learn to accept you for being you
I would have said accept you for being you but that might be too fast haha
Accept your strengths and your weaknesses
And be cool about it
It’s ok if people know about it
Because now you can ask for help!
And please don’t think asking for help is a sign of weakness! OMG
Asking for help from someone actually show you trust that person
And they in turn will trust you too
(I mean for more personal stuff, not like sending an email and asking your colleagues to find a list)
2. If you need to, write it down
This is optional
But some people might need to write it down and others can have an overall feel of it
What do I mean?
This relates to the above
Write down your strengths and weaknesses
The things you love and hate
Keep a gratitude diary too if you like
Gratitude definitely helps too
3. Let go and release the past or negative stuff (if any)
This is probably the biggest step for you
So I know it ain’t easy when you are doing it by yourself
Some of these stuff are things you had since you were a child
Others are negative but they keep you safe
I want you to at least try ok?
Worse case, you can talk to me
You can also choose to forgive the ones who hurt you before
Again, letting go of such things is beneficial for you and no one else
Cause once you release these stuff, you are free!
4. Respect other’s opinions, even if they are not true
This in particular relates to you not taking their word for it
Definitely not when they are negative words and trying to bring you down
Remember, these people will be here for a while because you had these fake and negative people for a while now
You can choose to cut them off entirely or learn to accept their existence and yet, deny them influence over your mind
Because they might not like that you are making positive changes, so be aware of this
Respect their opinions, but trust yourself
5. Be present
While I say be present, this breaks into 2 parts
Be present in the moment, enjoy life as it comes
Shit may happen but that shit will teach you how to appreciate the happy moments when it comes too
Next, be present with others
Sometimes, too often, people zone off and not listen to the other party in a conversation
Yet they pretend they are
So be present in everything you do
I have a few more in mind but I will stop here for now
Partly cause I feel with 3 reasons why and 5 ways how, your mind might be like wow already
And partly also because I believe this is enough for you to start taking action towards positive change to be authentic
What do you think?